Being a Male: Girls' Honor

“…….Main to tandoori murgi hu yaat

Gatka le saiyyan alcohol se……………..”

“………Log kehte hain mujhe main to hu namkin butter

Kaat doongi main dil ko meri jawani hai cutter………….”

These above lines aren’t a proof of my poetry skills. Those are part of a very emblematic item song from a typical bhai film. In a country where we feed the public with such creative lyrics, I can imagine the type of mentality, people possess with utmost modesty. And no wonder when a few select individuals decide to grope on their tandoori chicken, we rise through our comfort zone to protest against the failures of the government and the police force to curb such incidents. Have we ever wondered where does the entire mistake lie? Can such setbacks ever be avoided? Or has those few select male fraternity gone to the lowest of the lows in this crummy degradation track of the society as a whole?

A few days back there was an incident in Bengaluru, where a girl was groped and molested by a non-functioning kooky pervert with his partner in crime on a bike, in a dark alley while a number of bystanders and passers-by stood there being silent observers to the entire incident. Thankfully the gross commotion was recorded in a CCTV.

Now, let me put forward a few arguments.

Was she wearing short revealing clothes? No, right? Then why was she followed and attacked by those men?

Was she under the influence of alcohol? Again, no right? Then why did they flounder her?

Now let me say this, even if she was under the influence of booze and wore revealing clothes, who gave those senseless morons the right to even touch her? This is the thing which is most disturbing in our country. When people observe a girl wearing clothes which is out of their imagination, they perceive it as an opportunity rather than responsibility. Such shameful taste!

It is not just about that incident. It is about India, as an entire nation! And do you know where the problem lies? It lies right within us, the society. We have grown up hearing such non-sense from a very small age, be it from relatives or be it the television. Whenever there is any such incident, we always have a tendency to look at the girl in a skeptical manner. We either put the entire blame on her wearing short skirts due to which she attracted male attention, her drinking and smoking habits or her life revolving male friends. We blame it on everything which is related to her except the criminals, who had the audacity to perform such a heinous crime on her. It is such an ironical stigma to have so many Goddesses whom we worship without any dignity for the females of our society!

Maybe we should start focusing and change our viewpoint before the world starts laughing at us like they do when talking about some of the Middle-Eastern countries and their laws pertaining women. Yes, I am serious about it. For example, in a country like Iran, the rules and regulations put down for women are absolutely disgusting to even have a look. If you have no clue about them, then read about it here.

It is really hideous to think about how a few humans treat women. A really augmented word, ‘Feminism’ rose to prominence due to these few select individuals. It might sound harsh but honestly, it denotes only the elevation of female power and nothing else. What people are failing to look beyond all this is: Equality. It is equality amongst us all, that we vaguely talk theoretically and which is the need of the hour. If people want to play the blame-game then, they should not only blame the girls for consuming alcohol which apparently seems like the root cause about incidents like the 31^st night in Bengaluru. Men, under the influence of alcohol should be equally criticized. If girls aren’t allowed to wear Western clothes, maybe men should also be banned from wearing jeans and tees, and instead go out only in traditional Indian dresses. While girls aren’t allowed to roam around late at night, men should be prohibited from stepping out of their house at night too! Only then, it seems that such unfortunate episodes would come to an end!

But doesn’t it sound insane? Banning men from wearing western clothes and roaming around at night?

Yes, that is how insane it sounds when a few politicians lecture about the dress code of girls and their habits for such gruesome matters. As a male human being, I want to confirm that these individuals creating such ruckus in our society aren’t categorized as males or even human beings. If hell exists, then there is a special place for them there. And I also want to assure all the women out there that all males are not the same. I would also like to say that truce and accord would be ensured in the presence of us within the entire planet. I would also ensure that awareness about all these would be reached to the maximum individuals! Till then, remain safe. Stay healthy. Learn a few basic martial arts fighting methods for self-defense. Let us together eradicate this evil from our community! Let us stay united!

Jai Hind!